Staying strong during a break up can seem possible only with the help of witchcraft. The relationship ended, and you don’t know what to do. You are completely lost: out of your mind and in shock. You want to burn energy and stay in bed at the same time.
Staying strong it’s an art of the mind and sometimes is letting yourself accept your weaknesses. Here are some tips to help you stay strong during a break-up.
1. Accept the pain
Like many other feelings you might have during your life, you have to accept the pain. What you are feeling right now is normal. There is all type of stuff happening, a lot of things changing and it hurts. Accept the pain you are having and don’t shove it deep down inside because it can come later and hurt you much more than it is doing now.
2. Write about your feelings
The next step is to write about whatever you are feeling. It may not be apparent to you what is going on in your heart, and you need to see with your eyes what is happening. Words are the best. Take your pen to paper and let it flow. If you are not a big fan of writing, you can draw. Pick up some paper sheets and go nuts with the pen.
The point is for you to know what is going on and how to deal with it.
3. Let it out
Your inner strength may not be enough to deal with what you are feeling. It can be pain, anger, sadness… Whatever you are feeling, let it out. It’s ok to cry, to punch a bag or a pillow, to shout. You have to let it out in the way you need for that to come out of your system.
4. Think positive
In this time of sadness, all you need is some positivity. You may think everything is gone, and nothing will ever be the same, you will never be happy again, but that’s the pain talking. To overcome that negativity, you have to think about all the positive things you have in your life. It doesn’t matter if they are a lot or only a few. The important is to think positive.
If that doesn’t help, go online and search for positive quotes for you to remember during the day. Maybe watch a comedy, laugh a little bit and start to think positively about yourself. Love yourself like you deserve to be loved. If you do that, better things will come to you.
5. Get support
Breakups are hard. Of course, it isn’t impossible for you to get over it alone but it becomes much easier if you get some support.
It doesn’t matter where that support comes from. Go to your parents,friends, go to support groups online, talk to a friend you haven’t spoken in years to catch up: all of these are ways for you to get your mind out of the break up, and you start bonding with people that are going through or went through the same thing as you.
6. Cut ties with your ex
Getting over an ex is not an easy task. You love that person, everything reminds you of him/her, and you just want to go back. Turning back the clock is no option for anyone. The solution is to move forward.
You need to forget the past and let it go. There is nothing you can do about it. The best way to do it is to cut ties with your ex. If he/she keeps calling you on the phone, block that number and delete it. The same goes for social media. Block your ex, stop stalking him/her online and move on.
To cut of completely the memory of someone that hurt you, be radical and have an ex-free environment. Throw away everything that reminds you of your ex: things you did together, gifts, letters, text messages… anything that has some sentimental value has to go out the door never to be seen again.
7. Keep yourself busy
One simple thing you can do is to take care of yourself. Think about you and in every single part of your life. Do what makes you happy and make yourself busy with it. It’s the perfect time for you to learn a new skill, start a new project, finish what you started a long time ago but your relationship never let you finish.
Now is the time for you to start a new routine and include exercise in it. Give time to your friends that you forgot when you were in the relationship. Build new and better things for yourself.
8. Push yourself out of your comfort zone
To stay strong after a break-up, you need to feel strong in any way you can. The best way to do it is to put yourself out of your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is someplace where you feel safe, but you are not able to explore anything else. To make you empowered, you need to try new things, meet some new people or even begin to work in an area completely outside of your knowledge.
It can make you feel lost in the beginning, like you don’t know what you are doing and if you are doing it right but in the end, you will be able to say “I did it!”, and if you did it wrong, there is always space to improve.
So what in the end?
It’s not witchcraft, but these are things that help you to stay strong. In everything in life, only the beginning is hard. Getting used to doing something new can be challenging. Think positive and be aware that you are much more powerful than you think. Search for that power inside of you and use it to be strong on hard times and this is the perfect moment to do it.