Your relationship disappeared like boiling water. All you want is to catch all that particles and put them together again. Seems a crazy comparison but it’s the truth: you can’t get your relationship together again. All that’s left is to deal with it: all the pain, the anger, the sadness, and all the material things left behind by your ex. Here I give you some tips to help you not go crazy when everything seems lost.
1. Write down the feelings
If you are a girl looking for advice, you might as well use this one every single second of the day. Write things down; your head is probably a mess right now.
Being a girl is not easy. Our veins are full of hormones, and our head is full of feelings and emotions. Sometimes it’s like you are in a marathon dealing with all of that and your real life.
If you are a boy, you are probably not used to have to deal with what is happening, and you need to see with your eyes these feelings for you to be able to deal with them.
In any case, write your feelings down. If you already have a diary or a journal, good. Use that. If not, you always can start one.
The mess in your head will be detangled by the power of words. If the first time your text seems like it was written by someone who doesn’t know the language, don’t worry. You can rewrite it again. It will come to a point when everything makes sense and by that time you know you are getting over what happened.
2. Cut of the communication
Some people tend to keep a path of communication with their ex. Today it’s very easy for that to happen. Social media allows us to communicate with anyone including people on the other side of the world.
When you go through a break-up, it is tempting to keep having some type of communication with the person you love. You have to do whatever it helps you to never talk to that person again: block them in social media, delete contacts, have a brainwash to forget where they live. Anything is valid for you to cut off the communication with that person. It may hurt more temporarily, but it will make you happier long term.
3. Listen to songs
If you ever were involved in a breakup you probably already have a playlist with those songs that match your state of mind perfectly.
If not, be aware that music can help you to process feelings. It doesn’t matter what kind of music you are listening to. Some people never listen to electronic music, but after a break up that’s all they can hear. Maybe you never listen to Taylor Swift (and you may also have a hatred for her music), but on this occasion, she can be your salvation.
One example of a song that can work for you on this time on pain Habits (Stay High) by Tove Lo followed by My Way by Calvin Harris.
Choose those which make you feel better. Anything goes even Justin Bieber.
4. Take care of yourself (your body) / Exercise
Certain events in your life, such as a break up (or the relationship itself) may leave without any self-confidence.
Think of it as an opportunity to do more, to take care of yourself. Exercise is good for the body and the mind. You have something to focus on plus, in the end, you will get hotter. Even if you are one of those people that doesn’t care much about their appearance, making yourself look better, will improve your confidence.
If exercise isn’t your thing, you have a million other options. Do what makes you happy and what you need to do to keep positive thinking.
5. Get a Pet
Pets are adorable. You take care of them, and they keep you company without criticizing your life choices. Plus, if you talk to them, they won’t answer, and sometimes all you need is to speak, to get things off of your chest.
A pet will always be there for you when you come home and won’t break your heart. Getting a pet is the way to go when you have a lot of love to give but nobody wants to take it, and that is the case of your ex.
6. Take all the time you need / Be patient
Don’t rush. In today’s world, people are always trying to make things faster and faster.
At this moment you are probably at your lowest speed, and it is ok. Your heart is broken, and your mind is a mess. Don’t rush when trying to get over someone. Often, when you try to speed up certain things, it turns out rubbish.
Think about you down the road, what is best for you: is it best for me to get under someone to get over another one or is it better to be alone for some time?
Take all the time you need to make this decision and after that spend enough time to get over the breakup.
7. Let the pain transform you
All the people have their comfort zones. After a breakup, you will want to return to your last save point, before the relationship started.
You need to be honest with yourself and admit that things are different now. You met a person that made your world go upside down when you fell in love and then mixed up all the stuff you thought you knew when they broke up with you.
Your last save point is an excellent place to start when you want to get yourself back together, but there are a lot of things to consider. Before you had no pain to deal with. Right now it’s the biggest thing for you to toil about.
Embrace it, find ways to cope with it and let it change you for the better. Take the pain and make a brick out of it for you to build the road for you to go through your life the best way possible.
Right now everything seems impossible to do. As it was said before, take your time and never rush things. The best way to deal with all of the mess left in your life is to work your way out of it. Embrace what is happening at the moment and change your way of thinking to help you get over it. Be the most positive you can. If you notice, good attracts good and right now the last thing you need is another bad thing happening in your life.